There’s a long list of things I said I’d never do when I was a parent. You know… because I was a parenting genius before I had kids.
My list included no tv in the car, veggies would be eaten at every meal, the kids’ clothes would always match, and being the perfect parent. I thought my patience would be bountiful and my kids would be angels.
And then I had kids.
I’ve said before that nothing can make you feel like a failure more than motherhood. It’s a roller coaster of emotions and balance that is unlike any other thing you’ll ever do in your entire life.
Perfect and parenting aren’t two words that should be used in a sentence together. It’s not possible to be perfect and it’s not realistic to expect perfection. I am self-aware enough to know that I have weaknesses and strength. I play to my strengths and work on my weaknesses.
The reality is I am an impatient person. I always have been. It’s our kids who have taught me patience.
What we really need to do is lower our expectations of getting things done, doing all the laundry, and being perfect and raise our expectations for how much love, joy, and happiness we are capable of feeling. I know that every time I think I can’t love our kids any more than I already do, they do something that makes me love them even more.